Coping with aging

The question

Amelia, from Peterborough, writes: “I’ve been feeling stiffness, fatigue, and a sense that my body’s changing in ways I didn’t expect. My doctor called it “age-related,” but that doesn’t make it easier to accept. I’m trying to figure out how people deal with this shift – the loss of energy, the creeping discomfort and doubt, the unpredictability. What actually helps? What do you hold onto when your body starts feeling unfamiliar?

Your answers

Bodies need partnership, not domination.

Dr. Patricia, 62 – Iqaluit, Nunavut

Back problems made me absolutely furious until my physiotherapist offered this perspective: “Your body has faithfully carried you this far through life — perhaps now it’s time to start carrying it back.” Swimming twice weekly and gentle yoga have actually made me stronger now than I was two years ago. Different kind of strong, but genuinely stronger.

Frank, 59 – Edinburgh, Scotland

I had to properly grieve my younger body before I could truly appreciate my current one. Now each day brings celebration of what’s still wonderfully possible — gardening, terrible kitchen dancing to old Motown records, and completely guilt-free afternoon naps when needed.

Helen, 64 – Winnipeg, Manitoba

Joining a men’s walking group changed everything for me. My father never discussed health struggles, leaving me completely unprepared for arthritis, blood pressure concerns, and all the rest. Honest, open conversation with peers transformed lonely isolation into proactive, informed self-care.

Robert, 58 – Portland, Oregon

A simple health journal revealed helpful patterns.

Susan, 61 – Prince George, British Columbia

“Good enough” became my wonderfully liberating personal mantra.

Michael, 65 – Dublin, Ireland

Aqua fitness class at our community centre was a complete revelation for my arthritic joints. The warm water provides perfect support while our group offers constant motivation, genuine friendship, and shared wisdom. We celebrate small daily victories, exchange practical coping strategies, and provide emotional support through health scares and medical appointments. Having that community makes all the difference between managing aging alone versus thriving together through whatever comes.

Carol, 59 — Regina, Saskatchewan